Why do I call her "she" all the time?

A reader (can't believe anyone actually reads this) recently reminded me that I had said I would write about why I-- and actually, both of us-- always refer to the baby as a girl. This could be a VERY dangerous habit for us to get into. I did at one point apologize to the fetus, in case it turns out to be a boy. I don't think he'll hold it against me. I haven't bought anything baby-pink for him to wear yet, so it's not that bad.

It all started a LONG time ago, a few years ago when we started talking about the "someday" when we would have kids. I don't know why, but I and everyone around us just had this hunch that our first child would be a girl. We've stuck to it. And when I came out of my friend the MD's bathroom in January, holding the piece of white plastic with the line through it, one of the first thing out of VH's mouth was a girl's name. (NB: We had messed around for a couple of years throwing different girl baby names out there. The one he threw out kind of came out of nowhere. It may end up being the baby's name, just because that's weird and maybe it some sort of fate acting. But we have by no means decided on a name. I don't believe in choosing the baby's name until you've seen the baby.)

Lately, VH has been less inclined to call it a girl. Maybe he's starting to doubt our initial instinct, or maybe he's just trying not to assume, I'm not sure. But my whole family still refers to it as a girl, and my mom told me that my gramma hasn't been so certain about the sex of a baby since a second cousin of mine was born 40-something years ago-- and she was right then. I am trying to be better about being gender neutral but I haven't been too successful.

This Saturday I have another monthly appointment. I will be 17 weeks. I think they are going to give me the referral for the 16-20 week ultrasound. That is the first time they can tell the sex of the baby. They can't always tell. The baby has to be cooperating and willing to show them what they need to see. But we will have to decide very soon whether we want to know. This is still up in the air. Thoughts, opinions, advice? Take this opportunity, because on this topic, I haven't really been asking too many opinions!

NOTE: I started this post on 3/16 but finished it on 4/14-- it still posted under the original date so sorry for the lack of chronological order!